‘Transition’ a word that keeps coming to mind and today being the last day of the year I reflect on the shifting’s and changes that I personally experienced this year and how those changes have brought about growth and newer challenge. Not to say these transitions were fun as I went through them, sometimes they came with unending tears and having no other hope but clinging to God and other times, making me appreciate the lessons in the change.
I believe transitioning occurs both spiritually and physically to bring about growth in one’s journey and experience, and a total dependability on God.
Transitioning could come in several forms such as; relocating to a new environment as such, saying goodbyes to friends or families; getting a new job, a new car, having a baby, getting married or starting new relationships- now you get the picture. These requires a lot of shifting and considering I have experienced so much transition in this year, I can boldly tell you transition doesn’t always feel good as I felt comfortable in my previous position and didn’t feel the need to reposition but growing up, my dad made me understand that for things to change, I first have to change. In essence, I have to, change my mind-set and attitude and not clinging to the old or usual occurrence, I must condition my mind to accept the new change in order for me to enjoy or see the blessing in it.
As you journey into 2019, I ‘NEED’ you to understand you most likely will experience changes- which could hit you over your head (in form of a surprise) or one you are prepared for. Whatever the case, do not settle for less, appreciate the change and as overwhelming as transitioning might be, do understand it is not the end of you, it is only shifting you to a position where you become stronger and wiser (I talk from experience) and in a better position to be of help and be closer to God.
As you transition in 2019, you might feel God is far away and no longer hears your prayer, you might even think he is so slow in responding to your needs but those are moments I want you to remember that he sticks closer than a brother and is a very present help in times of trouble or uncertainties. In that moment, he is depending on you to trust solely on him- please do this no matter how excruciating the pain might feel. He will bring you out.
Happy New Year and have a wonderful 2019.
I realise there are infinite number of things or people we will compare ourselves with. The list is fathomless and comparing yourself is a strong emotion that resonates with every individual regardless of age or race.
And even if you do not want to, you seldom find that you are drawn towards comparing or competing with someone else because that in itself is a strong human emotion and when you start comparing you find there is no end to it especially if you see your mates or people on social media (which by the way mostly depicts false impression) doing something exciting and you are yet to achieve that, you are drawn to comparing.
You need to understand that comparing yourself only rubs you off your happiness- Your own happiness and your precious time. Rather than comparing, why not find something worthwhile to do in order to develop yourself.
Everyone has a different route they go through in life as well as different gifts. The fact that someone got there before you doesn’t make you a failure. You are only different and will get there eventually, you might just take a longer route and that’s ok.
Comparison also brings about resentment. You find yourself resenting the other person and the most silly thing is, this person is not aware of what’s going on in your world. They are busy making themselves better.
Also, comparison makes you channel your energy on the wrong thing because you focus on something else rather than working on yourself. I know it can be frustrating when you hope to attain a certain level in life but are unable to because of one situation or another but find others achieving the same thing- I understand but remember I mentioned earlier, we all have different routes. Some people might get there before others but in the end, you will get there even if you take the longer route. It is ok, just keep pushing and work harder.
Another thing to remember is, no one gets a gold medal for owning the first house or getting married first or giving birth first so enjoy the process whilst you are trying to be the best version of yourself and do not let the spirit of comparison dwell in you because it brings about negative emotions and I believe you want to live healthy lives.
In this post, I hope to encourage you going through a difficult time and to remind you that you are not alone in this journey. Maybe you feel disappointed at not having achieved the things you had hoped to achieve this year. Do not feel discouraged.
I was practically in the same position as you a few weeks back and then I turned my worries into praise (hence the praise Challange) and I have seen tremendous changes happen in my life and I encourage you to do same.
Although tonight marks the end of the challenge, that doesn’t translate that I will stop praising. On the contrary, I will keep praising God regardless of the situation but this challenge was just to refrain from asking and worshipping him solely.
I hope you end the year on a positive note regardless of the hurdles you’ve encountered.
Do not give up.