My Train Experience



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Last week I was on the train and the gentleman sitting next to me stood up to offer a lady his seat. When she sat down,  she kept staring at me. My old self would have felt guilty for not being the first to offer my seat instead, I ignored her and busied myself with what I was doing earlier.

It then dawned on me that most people often feel the same way not necessarily when they don’t offer their seat on a train or a bus but In other situations. It’s common to man to want to gain the favour and appreciation of another ( we all feel like that sometimes.  To feel noticed and appreciated right? ). Anyway; my not offering my seat wasn’t because I was trying to feel a type of way but I thought to myself: ‘I had to be at a certain place by half nine that morning. That means I had to get up really early to get ready for my day. After completing what I had to do, I left to catch the train back home. This means I too I’m exhausted and needed to sit.

On seeing the lady when she got into the train, I assumed she’s got a long day and might be exhausted like me. I could have offered my seat but I too was tired.

So this thinking as I said earlier; most people would offer their seats in order to be recognised as a good person ( mind you others will give up their seats regardless not having any ulterior motive).

This doesn’t mean I don’t give up seats.  Contrary to what you might be thinking I actually do especially if there is an elderly person,  a pregnant woman or someone with special needs.  But the point I’m trying to make here is, we often do things in other to get recognition. I’ve heard of stories where a man would offer help to someone else at the detriment of his family.

A religious person reading this might say ‘but the holy book says…’ I am not contradicting what the Bible or Quran says but I feel everyone should be wise in their dealings. The holy book never said ‘give your neighbour and starve your family’ .

So friends don’t feel pressured to help someone if it’s beyond your capacity however if you’ve got the means or strength to help someone please; by all means go all the way out. If you are however limited in any way don’t put yourself under immense pressure or worry and concern yourself with what the next person will think about you.

Till next time Smile, Love your God, Love your Neighbour and be a Blessing.


  1. Cynthia chukwu
    February 9, 2017 / 6:17 am

    That’s true dear. Even the bible says “love ur neighbour as u love urself” not “love ur neighbour more than urself”. Nice one

    • February 9, 2017 / 10:08 am

      Totally. Thanks boo

  2. Ogbonna Faith Sopuruchukwu
    February 9, 2017 / 11:41 am

    Nice one. We all need to be wise in our dealings

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  3. Amaka
    February 9, 2017 / 1:19 pm

    So true, but you dare not here cos the elderly ones would force u up…. Smh.
    Nice one dear, always torn in d mid of whether its necessary, good or if its expected of me.

    • Nneka
      May 17, 2017 / 9:00 pm

      True Amaka

  4. Empress Rachael Akinsanya
    February 9, 2017 / 1:32 pm

    Nice Write-up!

    • February 9, 2017 / 8:04 pm

      Thanks Empeess

  5. oluwafaith
    February 9, 2017 / 1:56 pm

    Wise words, even God dwells in wisdom. So, we should be wise in all our dealings as his children

    • Nneka
      May 17, 2017 / 9:03 pm

      Very true Oluwafaith

  6. Ehi
    February 10, 2017 / 12:06 am

    well said

    • Nneka
      May 17, 2017 / 9:07 pm

      Thanks Ehi

  7. Debby
    February 10, 2017 / 8:06 am

    Very Nice! I’ve also given this topic a thought before when i was in the bus, am i bad cos i didn’t offer my chair to an elderly woman or pregnant woman. Thanks for this Nikky, it helped.

    • February 10, 2017 / 11:31 am

      Debby thanks for the comment. It doesn’t mean you’re a bad person. It could be your state of mind at that time but in most cases elderly people or pregnant women are expected to be given priority. But then again as I said you might be going through a rough time so didn’t consider giving up your seat. But giving up your seat doesn’t make you a good person either. So be wise in your dealings

  8. Fortune
    February 10, 2017 / 6:16 pm

    I agree with the conclusion

  9. amaefula
    February 20, 2017 / 11:13 am

    Its all good…ur reasons are OK..its a mind thin…dnt b men Pleaser’s..but God

    • Nneka
      May 17, 2017 / 9:05 pm

      True Amaefula

  10. Ihwiwi Esther
    March 17, 2017 / 5:55 pm

    Nice one dear, keep it up.

    • March 17, 2017 / 6:44 pm

      Cheers Esther.

  11. March 21, 2017 / 6:18 am

    Certainly what I needed to hear this morning. At times we go all the way out to do good things at our very own expense all in a bid to ‘appear’ good. Doing good isn’t wrong at all, but doing good to appear good is where the problem is. Thanks for this Nikky!

    • March 21, 2017 / 10:57 am

      Absolutely Solomon. Thanks for stopping by and leaving a comment. Don’t forget to subscribe

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